Marv’s Dojo

Self-improvement || Self actualizAtion || Self-Mastery || Be enlightened 🥷

You can remain a victim of your past, or become a victor through your current choices.

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Some QnA from Instagram. Hope you find something that resonates 🥷🖤

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HOPE AS LIFE’S FUEL Long bouts of driving is bearable, at times enjoyable, cruising on the open road. But if there is traffic? It becomes a drag. You could be in the car for the same amount of time - yet two vastly different experiences. Just like In Life: the distance we travel is not the issue, the work and time we put in is not the issue. BUT if we see no progress, If we are stuck, if there is no flow - then we resent it. This is why HOPE is so critically important IF you have hope, you can endure almost any circumstances if you have inspiration, you are seeing improvement, if you have the vision of a better tomorrow - then you can take it all. You can suffer through any temporary hardships, the annoying job, the grinding hours and practices - IF you have something it is all for in the end. OR, some beautiful sunrise cresting over the corner. But without it? Man despairs very quickly. In a series of experiments in 1950, Curt Richter demonstrated that hope is a powerful factor in perseverance. The experiments measured how long it takes rats to die from drowning. Horrible, but the results were thus. After a few minutes, the rats seemed to give up entirely and drowned. In the next stage of experiments, at the moment at which they gave up, just before they died, he rescued them. He saved them, held them for a while and helped them recover. He then placed them back into the buckets and started the experiments all over again. And he discovered that When the rats were placed back into the water they swam and swam, for much longer than they had the first time they were placed in the buckets. This time, the Rats had HOPE. Now, humans are not rats. But the principle remains true. The world and certain powers that be want you to be Hope-less. If, through their propaganda and messaging, they can beat you down into giving up the fight, then they do not have to meet you in the battleground. Take it upon yourself, friend, to never lose hope in this world. To always see a way out of your situation, no matter how hopeless it may seem to you. To stoke the fires of HOPE in others, as one candle lights a thousand others.

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Your integrity is more important than your reputation. Because your reputation depends on how others perceive you, and that cannot be trusted. Sometimes, no matter how good you are, people will demonize you and negatively impact your reputation because it serves their interest. But your integrity? You live with that. It's always there. If you compromise on it, you will have a hard time looking at yourself in the mirror. Youre integrity is sacred. Preserve it at all costs. And most importantly, do not compromise your integrity just to build a reputation. You will hate yourself for it. And hating yourself is the worst thing you can do. Want to build a strong reputation? Uphold your values, be the person you claim to be. All the time. Work on preserving and maintaining your integrity and your reputation will improve effortlessly. Do the inner work, do not chase the external validation. Focus on yourself not what people say and think of you.

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This video brilliantly explains the mechanism behind addictions. Listen carefully…

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He who doesn’t know how to live in the present will keep missing out on life in vain hopes of a tomorrow that isn’t promised…

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POSITIVE MENTALITY IN A NEGATIVE ENVIRONMENT All that you allow to mentally affect you, is because you allow it so. You, just as easily, can take away the negative drain of outside circumstances by ‘flicking a switch’ within your mind. Do not allow: ⁃ Other people’s self-limiting beliefs ⁃ Others’ opinions of you or your work ⁃ Any thought that does not serve you in a helpful way To get inside your head. They are irrelevant, they are changing and most of all they are outside of your control. Trying to control that which you have no directive over is literally impossible and a foolish man’s game. ALL of man’s suffering comes from attempting to control that which is out of his hands. If you are within a negative environment - Start to visualise the outside circumstances as a blessing; “This environment is a test from the universe to give me to the strongest tools of mental resilience” This way you are motivated and excited to test yourself against the waves of negativity - it becomes an enjoyable challenge and one that, if endured will leave you with a stronger, more resilient mindset than if you’d just had complete support your whole life. View it as a blessing. Inevitably, there are people that will tear you down, because your success or even your energy alone will trigger their ego into feeling inadequate. The trick is to not feel anger towards them, because they know not what they do. They are unconsciously attacking something, controlled by their ego which they cannot see. Those Living in an unconscious state will be more open to adhering to better mind states when it is shown to be the way, with love, and never judgement or argument. Show, do not tell. It is our imperative to allow them to feel what they feel, yet still be the smiling force of positivity and light regardless. This is not to say that you should accept anything that people do to you. On the contrary, you should aim to remove yourself from toxic environments as much as possible - but if you are stuck in one due to logistics of your life for the moment, then relish in the fire; Come out the other side a stronger person and know that it all will be beneficial in the end.

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Make peace your highest priority. If you have to work hard for one thing, work hard for peace. Health comes from a disciplined mind & discipline comes peace. Wealth comes from a focused mind & focus comes from peace. Wisdom comes from a quiet mind & quiet comes from peace. Love comes from a fulfilled mind, and fulfillment comes from peace. When you have peace, you can attract everything you desire effortlessly into your life. When you have peace, you have God. Always remember that.

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You can change. It takes only a minute or it can take months. All it takes is a real deep honest understanding. Courage to be real with yourself. For once. Just for once. Tell yourself, "I will." Keep the promises made to myself. Aways be honest with myself. Always be my most authentic self. Never ever lie to myself. I will.... Change my life Quit my habits Start my business Propose to my love. Become the new me. And then, do it. And trust me, you will. Heart, my friend, heart is all you need.

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How to Explore your Unconscious Mind You'll hear of infinite ways of doing this, reprograming your subconscious and exploring your unconscious minds. Funny enough, most people see these as some woo-woo practices that serve no purpose. But the truth is, most of what's holding you back lies right there. It is difficult to solve because it is deeply rooted in your default actions and thinking processes. Some patterns of thoughts and behavior become so inherently part of who you think you are when they're simply bad habits built over time (most of the time as defense of coping mechanisms). But, if you're willing to go the extra mile, you can discover things about yourself that regular thinking sessions would not allow. That extra mile being the systemization of this process through the use of Freud's free association (with a tweak). I'll explain the tweak right after I explain the concept. In Freud's theory of psychoanalysis, the free association technique is a method used to explore the unconscious mind. It involves the patient sitting with a therapist and speaking freely about any thoughts, feelings, or associations that come to mind, without censoring or filtering themselves. The therapist listens to the patient's associations and looks for patterns or connections that may reveal unconscious conflicts or desires. By allowing the patient to freely associate, the therapist can help them gain insight into their unconscious mind and better understand their motivations and behaviors. But the difference is that, I believe most people do not need the help of a therapist but still can use such techniques to better understand their own functioning patterns and thought processes. Understanding these make you far more in control that the average person. It brings you what most NPCs lack: An improved sense of self-awareness. So, instead of relying on external feedback, we will create our own feedback. Here is how it goes: In order to mimic the conditions of Freud's experiments, you'll lay down on a couch and talk as if a therapist was listening to you. Only difference is that nobody will be listening, but you will be recording your speech. There is only one rule; it's that there is no rule. The goal of this exercise is to let your mind make connections and associations between different ideas as you keep expressing your thoughts. You can pick any starting point and keep going from there. At the end of your session, you will have a recording that you can then use to extract your most important lessons from. But that's not the goal. The goal is for you to listen back to the recording with the intent of understanding how your own mind makes connections. This works because it puts a distance between you and your thoughts, it allows you to distance yourself from said thoughts and deal with them as an external element rather than a part of you. This objectivity will, in terms, allow you to get rid of personal biases when considering your own thought patterns. Done repeatedly, this exercise strengthens your understanding of your own biases, patterns and insecurities. And if you can successfully understand and actively work on improving those, you're ahead of 99% of people.

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Feelings are just sensations appearing in consciousness - and we don't have to have a reaction to them either way the mind, the voice that creates incessant chatter will want to interpret, judge, consider, deduce, explain, reason everything that it comes across. but the real you is just the one quietly watching from 'behind'. You can observe the curious dialogue of the Mind, as it jumps from topic to thought to worry to fear. Always accesible, is the ability to separate oneself from that endless distraction. The journey of life is a mental training ground that will throw us situations of 'turmoil' until we learn. You can feel something, take note of the feeling, but understand that ‘you’ (the conscious awareness that is experiencing) does not need to let that feeling in to control you. When you hold onto an emotion, you are choosing to let that issue remain in your head. You are reaching out to it, hugging it, addicted to the feeling of (sadness, outrage, anger, jealousy). You constantly re emotionally hurt yourself, thinking that it is the fault of the ‘event’, not realising you are doing it to yourself. The thing, once passed, only exists in your own head now. Even if it is recent, we have the power to immediately distance ourselves from its pull. YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR MIND, or rather 'You' is separate from it. With practice, you can choose to act positively to everything that your mind encounters. While there might be an initial knee jerk reaction to feel bad, or an emotion that comes up from the egoic response, you have no responsibility to entertain that. The emotional feelings will occur. Then, our REACTION to it, is what determines our success in life. Will you be tossed around moment to moment, a slave to the turbulence, or smoothly encounter the human feelings and then suavely rise above it? This is entirely within your power. What would happen if you finally stopped aiming to control every aspect of your life? Without us, the trees grow, the birds sing despite our efforts. You are part of the same Earth, and so your life can also unfold beautifully without the endless machinations and reasonings of the mind that drive us to madness.

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What is the purpose of philosophy? If I wanted to be provocative, I would say not to end up with three V's in your arm without asking yourself a question. But I'm not in a teasing mood and I sincerely believe that we all need philosophy to navigate the world today. Philosophy is about thinking better to live better. We are on our own. Modern history has shown us that. Our countries have locked us up like rats. Forced. Some have lost their jobs, their futures. The signals to the contrary were everywhere. "You have to do this, that..." And camps of ideas clashed incessantly. Philosophy helps you find your way in this chaos. The very foundation of our western philosophy comes from the trial of Socrates. Without Socrates, there would be no Aristotle or Plato, and certainly no everything that follows. Modern thought is a direct inheritance of facts that have been unfolding for centuries. The trial of Socrates was the trigger. A man, sentenced to death for the crime of making others think. The elites had already understood that men who think are dangerous men. So, it was necessary to nip this notion in the bud. But they only killed the man, not the idea. It will give you the courage to be the only one to think something but to continue to believe in it. Philosophy is there so that you are not alone anymore. It will reinforce your choices. It will help you to understand the world. And me, my goal is not to tell you what to think. But just to think. Because it is a vital survival need in this modern world.

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Emotional maturity is the art of constantly balancing your emotions so you never get overwhelmed by any feeling. The key to mastering your emotions is welcoming every thought / feeling and allowing them pass through you without clinging to or resisting anything. The problem is not the feeling, the actual problem is your thoughts about the feelings. The issue begins when you subconsciously label some feelings as positive, and some as negative. This kickstarts a mental tug of war, as your mind immediately resists the negative feelings. The resulting inner conflict further perpetuates the feeling and the cycle continues. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with feeling confused, anxious or uncreative. All it takes to transmute these feeling is a little introspection. Next time you feel confused, don’t resist it. Instead, be curious as to what said feeling has to teach you. Check in within yourself, and you’ll find that the instigator of the feeling (your mind), is also the one playing the victim. An introspective monologue could go like; Am I actually confused, or just needlessly worrying about the future. What exactly do I need clarity on. What if I just remained present & patient? Feeling lazy? What food is making me feel this way. Why am I resisting the work that needs to be done. Am I being lazy or do I need to rest / unplug. Always look beyond the superficial. Never repress your feelings. Instead, seek to understand and transmute them into positives; wisdom, self-knowledge or inspiration…

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“I believe this. And anyone who doesn’t share my beliefs is stupid.” This is the mentality of the vast majority. But we don't believe things that are self-evidently true, we believe things we ‘hope’ are true. Don’t trade your curiosity for false beliefs…

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Close your eyes. Try to hear your heartbeat, or feel it. Stay in your heart center for 10 seconds. It’s amazing how people live without ever paying attention to the one organ that works endlessly to keep them alive…

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Mind over matter!

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How to deal with anxiety, insecurity, regret, loneliness. jealousy, fear, insecurities & attachments: It takes considerate self-reflection to realize that your mind tricks you into blaming external circumstances when it is in fact, the cause of all your troubles.…

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5 non-negotiable in my daily routine that make me a powerful learning and creative machine: 1) 7 hour sleep I never EVER use an alarm. I figured out, through lots of trial by error, that my body needs 7 hours per night. And because I love to rise with the sun at 7 a.m (natural sun cycle), I usually go to bed around 12a.m. Want an easier life? Become self-aware. 2) Shower I take a cold shower every morning. I noticed that any day I skip this, my energy, clarity and efficiency levels drop significantly. It’s the first thing I do after waking, almost automatically. 3) Workout I go the gym 4x a week. And on off-days, I train calisthenics and flexibility at home. The goal is to build a strong, athletic & aesthetic body with great mobility. I’ll never understand how people survive without any form of extreme physical exertion. 4) Writing I write to teach my future self how to be a better man, I share my writings so others can learn from my mistake inspired insights. It’s my favorite creative output because of the low burn rate it demands and the high return on wisdom it provides. Highly recommend. 5) Nap My 30 minute mid-day naps are the most critical source of my clarity, and the reason I never need coffee to work 10-12 hours. It provides more alertness without the agitation of coffee which makes you feel like you woke up in a higher level of consciousness. My life operations run seamlessly with little deliberation. It took a while to master my biological clock and mental flow states, but it all began with self-awareness.

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How to deal with anxiety, insecurity, regret, loneliness. jealousy, fear, insecurities & attachments: It takes considerate self-reflection to realize that your mind tricks you into blaming external circumstances when it is in fact, the cause of all your troubles. Every movement of thought, forward or backwards in time, is the brewing process for a new problem… Anxiety is when your mind creates unnecessary worries about the future. Yet 99% of the things you worry about never, actually happen the way you imagine. Regret is when your mind relives past traumas or mistakes, torturing you repeatedly over something you should have only suffered through once. Stop looking back at the past, you’ll only hurt your neck. Jealousy is when your mind compares your life to other people’s and concludes that theirs is better. Then you start to wish you had what they have. Comparison is the thief of joy. If you don’t create the need, you won’t suffer the lack. Loneliness is when your mind negatively interprets your aloneness. This arises because you have been programmed to believe that you need to be in a relationship to be happy. What you actually need is healthy levels of self-love, self-sufficiency and self-reliance. Insecurity is when your mind nitpicks on your little flaws because you’re overly concerned with the opinion of others. Self-love begins with accepting, appreciating & integrating every part of yourself - the light / the shadow, the higher / the lower, the pretty / the ugly. Disappointment happens when your mind holds expectations of how things should happen. Life is under no obligation to make sense to you, or to constantly play out the way you want. Fear is an illusion.Nature has in-built safety mechanisms to protect in times of real danger. But the mind is a specialist at creating psychological danger, which triggers fear. Fear of embarrassment Fear of failure Fear of judgement Fear of falling ill Fear of being cheated on And most commonly, fear of death. These are all unreal drama created by the mind to cope with its own boredom. Do not live in fear of that which hasn’t happened yet. Attachment is when your mind clings to your possessions or relationships. Anything you possess, possesses you by the same measure, and can be taken from you at anytime (with or against your will). If you want to live freely & blissfully, be detached from everything. Stay Inspired 🖤

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Nothing has the capacity to broaden your mind like the ability to observe and meta-cognitively investigate everything you think & perceive…

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